What is best Marriage Advice?

Recently I attended sister's wedding, had lots of enjoyment and I simply like all the hullabaloo of the marriage rituals and functions; many memories were flashing in mind of my wedding too. Bride is always treated with special care & attention and there is a special piece of suggestion not from one or two but from everyone. 

It always amuses me to see how a newlywed is unnecessarily showered with a lot of advices from all sorts of people on how to be friendly with everyone in new home, how one should deal with situations in life together and many people to my surprise start telling their own bad experience cases. C’mon a person cannot learn everything about marriage in a single suggestion. Unless it’s coming as suggestions it’s digestible but few of them start warning the newlywed. I could sense the discomfort and anxiety in my sister and just said two words “Be Yourself”; and I think she understood in my gesture what my words meant.

The way different people have different perspectives for life and how they deal with different scenarios and make the life get going, makes the difference. There is no special technique or some predefined formula exists or will ever exist for a happy married life. It all depends on how we adapt ourselves into the new life and ease out things.

To me, wedding is bond which amalgamates two persons with glue called love, respect, trust, friendship, faith and understanding. “Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.”-Simone Signoret. Each couple is a unique and the way each one makes the life get going is different. But what I believe is every relationship is unique and their way of dealing the challenges and the way they together face the situations are unique too.



Marriage has no predefined formula, each couple is unique

Trust Your Instinct

Who among us has not been in a dilemma in recent times? We all are in a situation where we want more options for taking the best decisions. Dilemma word itself means “A situation in which a difficult choice has to be made between two or more alternatives”. From hundreds of options, you have to make the apt choice for yourself and others which varies from shopping, cooking menu, relationships. But why does such situation rises, are we unable to reach decisions or are we not hearing to our inner instinct.?

Trust your instinct n Win over dilemma

Yes, all answers for such situations are instantly given by our instinct but we lower down such voices and try finding logics in our choice. For instance if you choose to buy a particular smart phone, then did you buy because it was on your budget or it is latest version or it’s manufactured by your favored company or did you blindly follow your friend’s advice? For a small thing also you end up giving explanations to those who questioned your choice and mind you; you also need to stand by your choice and also justify the facts for your choice. There is always reasoning behind each choice you make be it consciously or unconsciously, but some decisions are taken from heart, taken from instinct. l call such situations as Logical dilemma, where Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Trust your instinct to the end, though you can render no reason. “

What is Beauty ?

One day my daughter thought of assisting me in gardening as she loves that work. My daughter enjoyed watching different butterflies and the flowers; I taught her how to sow a seed, and we dug up the soil. Suddenly a caterpillar came out of the ground, slowly crept under a leaf, and started eating it. My daughter was observing it with surprise as she saw a caterpillar for the first time. I thought she would be afraid, but to my amazement, she told me, "I like that creature, ma. Isn't it beautiful? Can I be a friend with it? I want to take it home and play with it."

At that moment, my mind was boggled with hundreds of questions like...



What is BEAUTY?

 

The things we may like may not be liked by others, and it is well said that "Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it "– Confucius.

 How do we define beauty? Things which are suitable to look at, a pretty face, someone's stunning attire, those who are wealthy, items with vibrant colors...Is this natural beauty? These characteristics can only attract people's attention. We always adore and sometimes judge Everything and everyone by their appearance. True beauty is not that pleases our eyes, but it is that which touches our soul and heart. A person's actions and qualities make one beautiful. The outer beauty can be embellished by using cosmetics and feature correction techniques available these days, but the inner beauty of the heart is pure and is one's real beauty.

The famous fairy tale "The Beauty and the Beast" teaches us a crucial aspect of life. The princess always cherished a charming prince but ended up choosing the beast as a life partner because he had a kind and loving heart and mainly because Beautiful people are not always good, but good people are always beautiful.

Rafflesia Arnoldii(World's Largest Flower)

By this, I remember a pretty unusual flower. If I ask you to imagine a flower, the first features which come up in mind are the vibrant colors and the mesmerizing fragrance, but if I say all flowers do not possess these features. “Rafflesia Arnorldii” is a flower with a powerful and horrible

odor of decaying fish. However, it is still famous for being the largest flower in the world, and that's what makes it essential. Likewise, every living thing in this world has its own specialties, and nobody can replace them. Though the Rafflesia flower cannot give fragrance, it has its specialty. The characteristics one has are one’s own assets, we can pretend to be like someone, but in real life, everyone is unique and beautiful.

Lastly, I would say that we should feel proud to be what we are as we all are unique creations of God with one thing in common: a pure heart. Tell me what beauty really means to you by giving your comments.

@ Meenal

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10 Ways to have Fun During Summer Holidays

Hurray!! The summer break is here again most parts of the world which is long awaited time for the kids. First few days are spent in relaxing mood, but soon that relaxing also feels tiresome; with long vacation ahead we elders need to plan in advance few activities for them as empty mind is house of evils. And “The empty vessel makes the loudest sound.” - William Shakespeare said it very correctly. 

The scorching sun makes it impossible to stay outdoors; it’s time to remain mostly in doors, enjoy yummy and slurp ice creams, fruit juices and play in splash pools. Such long holidays needs some planning to make it more enjoyable as well as molding the child to refine their creative skills which is otherwise not possible with studies.