Thursday, 22 May 2014

Assumptions - Do we need it ?

Assumptions are supposing facts without proof; but still we all have strong assumptions in every now and then case. Few assumptions are nothing but intuitions from heart and few of them are baseless but preoccupied in our mind and are only removed by very strong counter fact. Assumptions to me are spoilsport in every relationship; many misunderstandings are created by assuming uncertain things which lead to shaken well settled bonded relations. I must say Henry Winkler very brilliantly quoted “Assumptions are the termites of relationships”.

Let’s take a story for example to understand how assumptions can be misleading in life. A lady entered an office, a very exotic and well furnished one; she was hesitant to enter the meeting room and was thinking how to meet famous designer because the famous designer was none other than her school friend. Many questions were running in her mind, when she was about to enter meeting room. Shall meeting as a formal person would be fine or introducing with a big hug was normal, as it was more than a decade two school friends were meeting? Is her now designer friend same as before or would she recognize her? Will she consider requirement of an urgent outfit? She assumed that that now her friend is renowned designer, meeting in formal would be better and left the friendship bond behind, entered into the meeting room. To her surprise her friend very well recognized her and welcomed with a big hug and grand smile. The moment they hugged all her assumptions just washed away.

While analogies are useful, however, they can also be misleading. They smuggle in assumptions that can be wrong.” - Michael Mandelbaum
Assumptions may be misleading!!!

Doesn't the above story reminds us of many such incidents where our assumptions have surprised us in complete contrast way. Actual scenario is totally different from the assumptions. Statically assumptions are done when critical thinking is not part of thoughts. We sometimes take things taken for granted assuming it will not change or we don’t put efforts to change them. You just can’t assume that everything will always be the same because things tend to change with time and people also change accordingly. “You must stick to your conviction, but be ready to abandon your assumptions.” - Denis Waitley

In our previous posts on relations of a mother and child or life partners we believe in each other and give our best with a true heart. Such purity of relations is what we all cherish for. But after all we are human beings, tend to assume certain things and move ahead in life. But sometimes we just assume one side of things and work accordingly and neglect the other side of facts. One would be lucky if what we assume is the reality but, on the other side of the coin if our supposition turns out to be totally different then relations would be on stake. A false assumption for someone is nothing but spoiling our belief on them. We try to judge the person and try finding evidence to support our assumptions.

If we look at the other aspect the complete science is based on many assumptions for example previously we assumed that the earth is the center of the universe but slowly it was proved that the theory was false. We usually start a business on the basis of assumptions made by the people, surveys are done on 1000 people and we assume that it may be the choice of overall people. Many business models are based on assumptions of business requirements but the real time scenario conflicts with the system.

So assuming certain things until facts are clear is good thinking but being ignorant from facts and believing in presumptions is being foolish. There are many factors that lead to assumptions and what does such assertion lead to will be looked in next post. By the time let us know which of yours assumption went completely opposite and surprised you.

“When we believe in lies, we cannot see the truth, so we make thousands of assumptions and we take them as truth. One of the biggest assumptions we make is that the lies we believe are the truth!” - Miguel Angel Ruiz


Linking with ABC Wednesday for the letter A for Assumptions

1 comment:

  1. Yes, but we ALL cheat, compartmentalize people and situations. I think it's human nature, and it's difficult to overcome.


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