Thursday, 31 July 2014

Is Wisdom Becoming Dumb?

All in this world come as a clean slate, where experiences, feeling and people pen down a lot on it. As we grow we learn plenty of things a few are taught and a few are learnt by observation; thus one gains immense amount of official knowledge, which is nothing but knowing facts. The ability to apply the knowledge gained in a right direction is wisdom. “Not by age but by capacity is wisdom acquired” is well quoted by Titus Maccius Plautus.

What is Wisdom?

Wisdom is the only treasure ancestors cannot pass it to their generations as it comes from good times, hard times, relationships, and experience. Wisdom is our ability to judge what is right or wrong, our common sense, our course of action taken according to situations, foresightedness, understanding and intelligence. “We don’t receive wisdom; we discover it from ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us” – Marcel Proust. But aren’t we relying more on knowledgeable stuff than wisdom. True that knowledge takes one higher in ladder of life, but wisdom teaches you how to stay on it. That quirkiness is slowly getting lost.

In today’s world where all are dependent on highly used gadgets, we hardly put any effort to memorize or get creative; for every minute thing we are depending on web.  I’ll share a very recent incident where a common friend was entirely depending on web searches for a school project of a toddler. Just few rhyming words for fruits were being searched on internet. I was amazed whether she searched for ideas within before looking somewhere else. But a question here may arise that if we have such a facility that everything we want to know is just a click away then why not avail them?

Wisdom superior than Knowledge
Wisdom is priceless
Why Wisdom is superior than Knowledge:

Why we need schools or colleges or universities? The lessons which are taught in school are also available online. Its true we can learn basic facts and gain the knowledge about anything we want; But we will not find that love, dedication and faith of our mentors, their valuable advices, their prized experiences shared, their appreciation which builds our confidence which is priceless and couldn’t be learnt through those gadgets.

Looking for an inspiration, and getting creative with it is nothing wrong, but are we looking in our brain, maybe one has more potential than simple ideas expressed in net, maybe your initiative is chain breaker of all the rest. “The fabled musk deer searches the world for the source of scent which comes from itself” – Ramakrishna. Hope we don’t become like deer, which searches in whole world but the things are finally within self. Never underestimate yourself; give wings to your imagination, then see up in the sky how far it goes.
However the question is; if you have an option open you will never look for other ones, that’s very simple rule of life. Have idea from within and definitely give it shape with the service called web. Let you be master of the idea and let web be at your service. Don’t always look at the perfection at very start of anything as a painting also becomes beautiful with many pencil strokes. Michael J Fox superbly expressed “I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence, I can reach for; perfection is God’s business”. I would finally say “Be wise, be creative and be a trendsetter; after all it’s the recognition for our own ideas gives immense happiness".

"Everyone is born genius, but most people only keep it a few minutes" – Edgard Varsese


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Thursday, 24 July 2014

True Fragrance Lasts Forever

Fresh baked cake, the delicious dishes made by mother, hot espresso coffee, freshness of a new book, all have unique and yet common factor; it is their fragrance. We cannot forget those fragrances and always want ourselves to be attached from them; and constantly try to search such fragrances where ever we go as the sweetness and sharpness makes it distinctive. Fragrances have special place in our life; it takes us on a tour of emotion with mesmerizing memories. “A good fragrance is really a powerful cocktail of memories and emotion.” - Jeffrey Stepakoff. Actually every living being around us is associated with a particular fragrance which makes it different from others, and moreover nature has gifted us with lot of many invigorating scents like aroma of fresh spring flowers, scent of herbs, the earthy spell during monsoon, fresh whiff from citrus fruits and if you observe every season has it’s particular fragrance.

Fragrances have such an exceptional magic to them that it makes your day, feel energized, make you forget about the world around. A person favorite perfume selected is nothing but a choice made for the scent in which one is most comfortable and which reminds them about good things and brings smile to them. As when you travel in car, you maintain the aura of perfumes which makes you comfortable. In fact moving in familiar fragrances makes one feel at home; nothing is required much if you have good aroma around, and it is well quoted by Emma Goldman “I’d rather have flowers on my table than diamonds on my neck”.

Wearing a scent is an essential part of dressing, and using a particular fragrance shows your uniqueness and moreover we want that fragrance to be with us. But is one wearing a true fragrance daily without a miss. Yes, according to me one’s inner soul fragrance is “True fragrance”, which is nothing blend of Forgiveness, Respect, Smile, Caring & Vigilant attitude. Mark Twain superbly quoted “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it”. Person is not only recognized by their virtue, deeds, and education but also by their fragrance too; yes, it’s a fact that people are also known by their perfume. Where Artificial fragrance fades in few hours but True fragrance is immortal. So why not spread the aroma of true fragrance which lasts forever, so that whoever is part of your life could feel its presence, and also feel the aura in your absence. Hence it is important for one to wear a lifelong fragrance than a momentary one, I would prefer to wear true one for life, which would be blend of Smile, Care and Forgiveness.

“The fragrance of flowers spreads only in the direction of the wind. But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction.” - Chanakya


Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Let's Build A Roof Of Healthy Boundaries

In my previous post “Why setting boundaries is important” I have emphasized on the importance of setting boundaries for kids. But the major question lies is how the boundaries should be and what should be done so that we can make them more comfortable for children or rather restricting them in a manner which they may feel like a safety net.

There may be lot of ways to make the boundaries at ease for a child, let’s take a look on few of them in this post.

Boundary - A Safety Net

Define Clear Boundaries: Always tell the kids clearly what you want from them rather than specifying what you don’t want them to do. This way of expressing will allow the child to be more comfortable rather than more restricted. When we have clear boundaries, we permit ourselves.

Early start: At times, we think that the children at tender age do not completely understand us and therefore we let them free to do what they like. But later when they grow up we suddenly start restricting them, thus resulting in resentment and anger in both the child and the parent. For e.g. a child if not taught to use polite words while talking when young can’t speak politely when grown up. The best way to make a child learn is to speak with them in the same way that you expect them to speak .It is very crucial to begin creating boundaries early as child’s mind is pliable.“The most important thing parents can give their children is love. The second most important thing is discipline.” -T. Berry Brazelton, M.D.

Friday, 11 July 2014

One's First Emotion

All the emotions one day were discussing, who would wear the “crown of emotion”.  All were putting forth their point, Happy said “I am the most used emotion, be it natural or fake but I am always there, so I deserve to have the glory”.  All others fell silent, after all it was very true fact put forth by Happy. But few seconds later Surprise said “I shake’s person mind, so I rule most of the people, be it good or bad I dumbstruck them for few seconds so I am also equally deserving for the crown”. And then again nobody had the answer, but Cry courageously said “I am the first emotion experienced when person comes to world, and I am there, be it a happy moment or sad one, I am connected to one’s heart”. Without any further discussion Cry was crowned the king of emotions.

Don’t you agree with this, that Cry deserve to be crowned? Crying is such an emotional moment that whenever happens cleans your eyes, in turn which clears your mind to give a fresh start, to which Dionne Warwick beautifully said Crying is cleansing. There's a reason for tears, happiness or sadness.Crying is done in contrast reasons such as when we are extremely happy, eyes are filled with tears unknowingly? And when heart is emotionally low then too tears roll out. Person comes to the world in crying state (if not cried then made to cry for scientific reasons) and when person leaves the world, rest of the people weep for that person. When you achieve goals you cry out of happiness and out of unbelievable feeling and if you lose by a notch then too you cry thinking all the hard work has gone in vain. Wow! How wonderful this emotion of crying is which touches our soul.
Tears connect our soul

And moreover crying is such a simple way to convey a message that even new born and toddlers used it express their feeling with various degree of crying. But as we grow up, we tend to hide this particular emotion from others for variety of reasons. Some say that crying will showcase them as weak person. “Crying doesn’t indicate that you are weak. Since birth it has always been a sign that you’re alive”. We also cry when we don’t have words to expresses our feelings. Many would agree that for once you may forget with whom you laughed out, but one doesn’t forget who wiped your tears. Apart from that crying shows that you have heart which cares, as Elizabeth Gilbert marvelously quoted “Do not apologize for crying, without this emotion, we are only robots.”

Thursday, 3 July 2014

Father - Our Role Model

Well it is the time to celebrate and thank a person who holds a very special place in our heart – Our “Father”. A father is a teacher, a guide, an adviser, a source of strength and support. It is aptly said “No care is greater than the dad’s care”. A father, who speaks everything through his eyes and gestures, though reacts less but is the person who cares the most and teaches us great values. A child feels safe under his protection and can explore the world under him. A brilliant quote says it all, "I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection”. - Sigmund Freud

Fathers set an example of being hardworking, stable and strength of a family, they are generally referred as “spinal cord of family”, who keeps going endlessly. Mostly we follow our father's footsteps and understandings when starting new chapters in life; he influences the way we approach in life. We apply his teachings to our life to achieve for a happy and successful life. Clarence Burlington-Kelland marvellously quoted "He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it". A father is the person who sets a goal, believes in us and shows us the path to reach out to the greatest height. A belief in father’s heart makes a person so stronger that any big obstacle seems to be a tiny pebble; and that kind of blind belief takes you long in journey of life. “My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”– JimValvano

A father makes sure that he is always there to protect you, when you tumbled upon by the ups and downs in time. It’s time to make our fathers feel special and thank him for everything he has provided us so that we can get the best of the best always. ”My father is the individual who has influenced me the most and is the greatest gift I have ever received.”

Father's Day
Happy Father's Day

Thank U Dad for everything...

He has given me so much, including the most important thing in the world: all of his love.

Why setting boundaries is important?

A parent always tries to fulfill the unlimited demands of a child, but at times parents also require saying “NO” to few things. This little word no, holds a lot of importance and restricts a child from doing it again. This is nothing but setting boundaries for our child, which is an important aspect of parenting. A boundary is nothing but a line drawn around ourselves to know from where to start and where to end; which always makes you feel safe and sets mind to work within it. We often set boundaries for ourselves and work within it, and we also do the same for our children; child too feels protected and learns many things through it.

Let me share an incident with you all related to this, I was in children’s park last week and observed that a toddler was exploring the world on its own, but his exploration were made till he could see his parents. As parents would move a step towards him, he would move a few steps further. This gives us a clear picture that the little one in his mind has set his boundaries the child walks and turns to look whether the parents are seen. Aren’t we the same as toddler in exploration, we also move ahead in path if our loved ones are with us.  In the same manner children also explores the world if you are with them with its own limitations. As child grows its boundaries are also stretched, but how to build boundaries for children and make them feel liberated at the same time is an important duty of parents.

 While deciding the frontier there are certain aspects which needs to be looked upon. Like the foremost point is “Keeping the boundaries clear” as blurred demarcations always confuses a child. A child should be clearly explained the limits and also the consequences of crossing them .For e.g. we can explain the kids that they can’t eat more than 2 chocolates in a day, as that would lead to stomach ache. By reasoning child knows why we are restricting on certain things.

As a parent we need to make a child understand that limitations are not always restrictions done in a negative way nor they are a kind of punishment. Limitation’s is not stopping one to perform instead it is a kind of a line drawn to get benefited through them and limitations done in a right manner are always fruitful. “Boundaries are meant to protect life but not limit our pleasures”- Merlin wilde.

Today in the age of gadgets, where everyone is addicted electronic devices and children are no exception; but we all know that too much of everything is too bad. On one hand it’s good that we want our kids to walk along the new technology and also feel proud that little kids are able to do lot many things easily than the elders; but on the other hand limiting usage of such devices will benefit them.(More physical activity and energetic). And same applies to elders too; even we should follow the limitations set for child with them, to make them feel it’s just not for them and applies to whole family. To bring up a child in the way he should go - travel that way yourself. - Josh Billings

There are major factors that can be used to make a boundary more comfortable, which we shall see in our upcoming posts. And for a child’s over all development we need to set a few boundaries to maintain a level so that a child learns through them.

“A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.”-Anonymous.